Session
Three – The Wound
First, it is not necessarily one clear wound, given on an unforgettable day you remember in detail. Many men can recall the day they received a soul-wound from their father that somehow defined the rest of their relationship with him. But for others, it is an accumulation of subtle wounds and messages give over time. Second, I believe that every man carries a wound(s). No matter how good a man your father was, and may still be, he is not Jesus Christ. Every father is a son of Adam, and every father himself grew up on a world
far from Eden. Given these two Biblical truths, be very, very cautious to come to the conclusion that you somehow escaped the father-wound. Your father may have repented deeply of his own false self as a young man, and been substantially healed of his own wound before he fathered you. But that is a rare, rare case. Finally, you have been born into a world at war. A war over the souls of men. The enemy desires to steal, kill and destroy - YOU. It is highly unlikely that he has not been successful in wounding your soul at some point in your life. Do not dismiss the assault of the enemy as you identify your wounds.
What is/are your wound(s)? Can you put words to it? Do you remember how
it was given, the way it came?
And what was the message of the wound – or the series of wounds? What did it say to you about yourself?
What agreements have you made about who you are – in essence saying “This is the way I am”? Have you ever considered deeply why you are “this way?”
Can you remember making a sort of vow when you were younger – maybe after being wounded? What was the vow?
What did you father “name” you – what identity did he bestow on you as a boy and young man?
Some wounds originate due to absence – physical, emotional, spiritual. “Not receiving a blessing from your father is an injury. Not seeing your father when you are small, never being with him, having a remote father, a workaholic father, is an injury.” Did you receive a wound of this type?
Do you live each day with a deep inner strength that comes from knowing you are a real man, that you have what it takes? Or are you a driven man, or a passive man? When did that feeling of drivenness or passivity set in? Did it originate during a certain period of life?
Many men take their “question” to the woman and want her to validate them as men. For a passive man it may mean you need to stand up to your wife. For a violent man (including achievers) it means stop abusing her. Many men make the woman their adventure. How have you handled the woman in your life? What have you been seeking from her?
What would you love to have heard from your father?
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